Moving on

The basics are in place and the boxes are still all over the place, but we are settling in to our new place. Finally. The move was not as well planned as we would have liked it to be, but the issues that came up were handled as best we could with what we had to work with.  All in all we are happy with where we are and we are getting used to the little things that we didn’t notice right away. Nothing major, just little quirks that make this place unique.

As we started packing things to go into storage we realized that there is a LOT of stuff that we do not use at all. Not just the boxes of goodies that we carry around for sentimental reasons, but the boxes that were never unpacked 3 years ago when we moved the last time, and the boxes that were never unpacked BEFORE that move 3 years ago.  There are things that we have carried with us that have not seen the light of day for 7 years… and that is WAY too long.

I have a lot of clients ask about someone from their past coming back to them.  The client seems fixated on having that person return, regardless of why they left, how long they have been gone, or what their reaction is if the client tries to contact them.  Some of the information they have on the estranged partner make it sound like they have been stalking them – gathering as much intel as possible so that they don’t lose touch with them… and that is WAY too much.

Like the boxes that have not been opened for a while, the partner-who-left has a limited shelf life.  If they have not returned after a few months, or they are now involved with someone else, it is time to cut the cord and start living for yourself.  No matter how many times you call or visit a Tarot Reader or Psychic, the chance of their return diminishes every day.  Just as the box of clothes gets musty and yellowed, so does the luster of the relationship tarnish and dim.  Only our determination to hold on to the past allows us to believe that we will one day be able to don that outfit or reunite with that person, and when reality hits we are disappointed.  We wonder how we could have held on to something for so long that it became useless, when in fact our holding on was the useless gesture.

Old glassware and clothes that are too small can be sold at flea markets and second hand stores.  They will never bring in what we invested in them, but they can make someone else happy for a time.  We can stop carrying them around, hopelessly hoping that we will again be able to put them to use, and free ourselves to find new and different things that we want to have.

That is also a good way to look at the relationship-that-is-no-more.

Before you spend the time and energy looking for a Reader that will tell you to keep the light on in the window so that the wayward partner will know where to come back to, think about what you really want.  Are you trying to get into an outfit that you have outgrown?  Are you carrying around boxes of old ideas and dreams that haven’t see the light of day in years?  And if so, ask yourself why. By the time you finally open them up you will find that the beauty they once had is now faded and pale, and the only thing you can do is let go of them.

Once you get to that point, you will be free to see the new and different opportunities that are right in front of you, and you can start to learn the quirks that make them unique. It is well worth the effort.